If you're dealing with your own lack of routines or struggling to create them for yourself, children, and family, the main contributing factor is the beliefs, energies, and imbalances stored within one's root chakra.
When we don't grow up with healthy habits and patterns, a strong value for truth, and an understanding of our human behaviour, life can become overwhelming, confusing, and overly complicated. It can be harder to manage our ideas, thoughts, feelings, and actions on top of managing others.
One of the hardest life experiences is entering adulthood along with becoming a parent when you haven't healed your own parental relationships, which is why I encourage so many to start their journey of healing, making sense of their timelines and manifested lives before locking into one career path, marriage or babies. Allowing the self to mature and evolve to a place where you have the conscious ability to maintain your own values, beliefs, routines will by default make entering any relationship and growing a family far sweeter and gentler with less stress and indecisiveness. With a strong knowing and foundation of one's own root, their ability to regulate their system will better assist them in all of life's highs and lows as we flow through learning what life, love, success, wealth, health, joy, intimacy to list a few really are and what all those should truly look and feel like.
Now if you haven’t done that, I suggest getting on the same page with your partner and making the conscious decision to work together to heal the imbalanced particles within each other through dedication, compassion, and a strong awareness. You will be each other's mirrors and be sure to not attack or blame your mirror. If within your relationships beliefs are different, values are different, and views on life are different this can make creating, raising children, and making life decisions very challenging and straining along with if one is willing to do the heart work while the other is not. You will begin to experience a distance, a feeling of separation, as though you’re not on the same page as you are not vibrating at the same energetic level. This can create a lot of tension between a couple and trigger very unhealthy patterns as you continue to grow further apart.
Our root, our foundation lies in our fundamental survival instincts, ensuring safety, a sense of security, and a connection to our ancestry and lineage. It encompasses our actions, environment, and core values. The root represents the essence of life within our cells, containing a multitude of vibrations waiting for exploration.